81. the July Stuff challenge — successes and failures

This is one of several posts discussing Richard Foster’s chapter on Simplicity in Celebration of Discipline.

How did I do in July with trying not to buy much that might “break the back” of someone else?

I promised to let you know the results, and here it is the end of August beginning of September!

I did some things well, and some things were harder. But I won’t say that I failed at anything, because all month, I was very conscious of what I purchased, and where and how it was made; and I have to say, that it has carried over into August. Well, sort of… More about that later…

Knowing my memory lapses, I kept a notebook of my purchases, both ordinary and not. So here’s the results:

  • Paint and House Supplies:

I bought paint — Benjamin Moore and Sherwin Willliams are both made in the USA. Behr (Gasp, yes, I bought Behr!) was a little more difficult to find information about — I actually had to google it…They are owned by Masco (Arrow staples, Delta faucets, Behr…) with headquarters in Santa Ana, CA and manufacturing facilities in Georgia, Kansas City, and Chicago. Made in USA is written on both Ben Moore and S-W paint cans in very large lettering. One would think Behr would take the hint…

Paintbrushes were a task as well. Purdy brushes are made in the USA, but they are very $$$. Mr. H.C., the contractor husband, gasped and complained mildly when I brought two Purdys home this month. The second time he specifically asked me to get him a brush, and he showed me the one he wanted from his stash of seventy gazillion paintbrushes. It was a Zibra. I said, “I’m not buying it if it’s made in China.”

I practically opened the Zibra brush in the store — I read the entire label and the country of origin was nowhere to be found. It was two dollars cheaper than the Purdy. So I put it back, bought the Purdy and resolved to find out about Zibra. According to their website, they are a women-driven company from the U.S.. Yes, their paintbrushes are made in China, but they also run the Made in China Foundation, which is a foundation existing solely to make it easier for U.S. families to adopt Chinese babies. So, the jury is still out on that one…

  • Clothing:

I bought three pieces of clothing in July. Two of them — scrubs and a t-shirt were bought at the local Mission store. The other was a nice dress.

My son is getting married in September, and my daughter made a secret Pinterest board for me called Mom’s Dresses.  She pinned 63 dresses for me to look at! So I bought one from Shabbyapple.com. It was made in Malaysia, but on the dress is this tag:IMG_2588

On their website, they say, Shabby Apple donates 5% of its net income to support work with 62 microfinance institutions in 31 countries throughout the world. So the jury is still out  on that one too.

And I have to add here, since it is September, that I’ve bought some clothing — for the wedding, and for back to school — and this is where I think it is the hardest to discern what to buy and what to avoid. In addition to finding something that looks good, fits well, is within a budget, and is made of  natural fibers, NOW we have to worry about where it was made, and under what conditions??? Sometimes all that is Just. Too. Hard.

  • Groceries and Food:

This was where I failed the most, but it is also — overwhelmingly — where I spent the most money. Avocados from Peru and Mexico; Bananas from Guatemala; Organic limes and grapes from Mexico.

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But I also found Fair Trade Coffee at Aldi’s Market (and they have started carrying organic Fair Trade bananas as well) and Fair Trade Raw Sugar from Malawi at the Food Coop. July made it easy to go to the Farmer’s Markets where local produce was abundant. There is also Fencerow Farmer’s Market in Waynesburg where they sell local meats, (Greene County lamb is world-famous!) honey, milk, and eggs year round. Also right up the road from us at Apple Hill is Mother Earth Farm, who also stock local organic eggs and fruits and vegetables. It is almost more convenient to buy locally in Greene County, than it is in Pittsburgh. Of course, Pittsburgh has the Food Coop and Trader Joes.

Buycott Phone SnapNow I will tell you about my new-found app to make buying and supporting (or not supporting) companies easier. It is called Buycott; and it really helps in the grocery store, where most of my problems occurred. Of course, that could be because 75% of my consumer dollars were spent buying food.

It is a free app. You spend a little time inputting what you want to support, and what you don’t want to buy. Then you scan the barcode of your items and it tells you (most of the time) where it was made or other information. It’s cool. It makes your shopping time longer, especially the first few times you use it. But then, once you know what products are safe, you can just go to them every time.

  • Miscellaneous Health and Other Supplies:

I also broke my own rule and went into a Dollar Store. I needed Band-Aids and Triple Anti-biotic Ointment, both of which were had at cheaper prices than the drug stores, AND they were made in the USA as well. Success! I also found that greeting cards in the Dollar Stores are made in the US. And as far as deodorant and dishwashing liquid goes, this month, I MADE MY OWN! but that’s another post…

Here’s another example of cheap vs. natural: little scrubby sponges — the green ones you buy for scrubbing pots? At the dollar stores they are cheap — sometimes three for a dollar. Made somewhere far away, probably by some poor woman who can never get the green dye off her hands. The alternative is  a nice natural sponge, made in the US, a pleasant tan color like a sponge should be, and it costs $4.99!  I bought that one (mostly because I don’t think sponges should be green). But I gotta say, sometimes it just depends how much money I have that week!

Two other things stymied me — gasoline and aluminum foil. I have no idea where Getgo (Giant Eagle) gasoline comes from, who the company is that supplies them, and I’m really of the mind that it doesn’t matter; all gasoline is from bad companies. If anyone can correct me on this, please do.

And aluminum foil —  Reynolds has a very good ethical statement on their website, but I rarely buy Reynolds Wrap, I usually buy the cheap stuff, and I have no idea where it comes from. And it doesn’t say on the boxes, either…

  • Eating Out:

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We didn’t eat out too often this month, but when we did, we ate at locally owned restaurants except for one lunch — we were on the road, with a group of people, and we ate at Wendy’s. But to be honest, this was atypical too. We do eat at Subway and Wendy’s and Papa John’s  more than we should…

In some ways, July was an atypical month of spending. I’m not working through the summer, and cash is always a little tight, We were watching spending anyway this month, so it was a little easier to buy cautiously. For instance, I will confess that just last week (August) we went to a big box store and bought a new light for our city kitchen, knowing full well that it was probably going to be made in China. Yep, it was, and we bought it anyway.  Sometimes cheap is more important, I’m sorry to say.

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I’m glad I did this buying challenge. It translated into giving me a cautious buying mood (most of the time). And it made me consider what I really need; I don’t think I bought anything frivolous in July. I’m going to really try to have this be a new attitude for my spending.

Ellen Tracy "Ophelia" ballet flatsBut I might need a pair of new shoes for this wedding that’s coming up soon…

75. Listen, your stuff is talking

This is part 7 of several posts discussing Richard Foster‘s chapter on Simplicity in Celebration of Discipline.

This past week a group from our church spent four days in Manasquan, Mantoloking, and Lavalette, three towns on the Jersey Shore that were affected by Hurricane Sandy. Celebration of Discipline by Richard J. FosterOn Saturday evening we went to the coffee-house type worship at the church. The speaker was Jen, part of the praise team, who spoke passionately on the Simplicity chapter in Richard Foster’s book Celebration of Discipline.  I don’t believe in coincidences. I believe that our Maker puts things in our lives for us to learn and be amazed by them. So, I was amazed. Two other women in our group had also participated in the Celebration of Discipline book study this spring. We all looked at each other and smiled. Yes, this talk was for us.

One by one, she spoke about the practical guidelines Foster puts forth, which, if we follow them, will lead us to a life of honest simplicity. The key words here are If we follow them

Foster’s eighth guideline for practical simplicity is this: Obey Jesus’ instructions about plain, honest speech.

Jen read this one, looked at the audience and said humorously, “I’ve got this one nailed.”

I laughed along with the audience. Not because I had this one nailed, but because I know how she felt to finally come upon one of Foster’s instructions that allows you to think, “Yes! Got it!”

So what are Jesus’ instructions about plain, honest speech?

Let your yes be yes

In Matthew 5:33-37 he says : “And don’t say anything you don’t mean…Just say yes and no. When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong.” (paraphrased in The Message by Eugene Peterson.) That is — No excuses, no whining, no explaining, no fancy talk, no elaboration, no maybes, no swearing… Yes, I’ll be glad to. No, I’m sorry, I can’t.

In past posts “stuff” has dealt mostly with physical stuff, perhaps because that is usually what we think of when the ubiquitous word stuff rolls off our tongue or across our keyboard. But today, let’s think of stuff  as the baggage we carry around every day, those black garbage bags that color our thoughts and our speech. Bitterness, anger, jealousy, envy — all those ugly words weigh us down and come out in our talk.

eat your words

It used to be called Diarrhea of the Mouth; now it’s called TMI. It is very difficult to claim Not Guilty on this one. Ever just want to fill the silence with talking and then realize that you are saying nothing of importance? Ever interrupt someone just to get in your two cents? Ever say something and then think, Why did I say that? Ever say, Well, don’t tell anyone this, but… Ever talk just to feel important? Ever speak of someone unkindly?

Yes, to all the above. It’s not pretty to admit.
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We’ve all been in conversations when suddenly the talk takes a turn for the worse. Words spill out, awkwardness ensues, someone leans down to tie a shoe… Perhaps you were the listener? Perhaps you were the talker?

We’ve also all been in conversations when the other person stops listening. Their eyes glaze over, body language changes, they lean down to tie a shoe… And we are likely to think them rude, when we should be wondering if it could be our talk.

Listening is an art, yes, but so is speaking. And maybe we should all just shut up? My Mom always used to say,

“If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything.”

I used to hate it when she said that. Behind her back, I would mouth the words and roll my eyes. But today, I’m here to say, You were right, Mom. (Are you listening?)

Those  words that spill out from our stuff? They can only get us in trouble. With our friends, with our families, with our spouses, with our bosses, with Jesus. So, Zip your lips, Think before you speak, Put a sock in it, Bite your tongue, Pray for patience, Leave the room. Whatever you have to do to keep your speech honest and upright and pleasing, just do it. For the person you’re with, and for Jesus.Don't let your words be swords

Do I have this one nailed? No, but I’m trying. And when I can’t do it myself, I can call on the one who was nailed to the cross for me.

73. July berry days

Can there be anything more soul uplifting than a July sky day of clear blue and white?
July sky

The berry path beckons…

the berry path beckons...

the berry path beckons…

Luscious red and purple berries hang amidst thorns and stickers
tempting, teasing,
Further in the bigger, plumper berries dangle in clumps, tantalizing.Black raspberries

How far in will you go to fill your basket?
picking berries

The briars stripe red across your hands.
The sun swelters long-sleeved arms. Eyes sting from sweat.
The thorns grow thornier; the poison ivy thrives,
and who knows what lurks in the stickery thicket just beyond your boot?

natural arbor
The cool of a wild grape arbor is welcome shade, and scratches are redeemed by buckets filled with berries.

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The surprise of unexpected flowers and clouds add joy and sweetness to the burst of berries on a purple tongue.

And to cool the evening, berry dessert on the porch.
Watermelon and berry dessert
These perfect days refresh our souls…